The Cocktail Party Effect

” /> Flashback To Eight Grade! You’re sitting in the cafeteria, engaged in a heated discussion about boys with all your girlfriends [In case you didn't know, this example doesn't apply to MInTheGap or I - though we both were surrounded by all our girlfriends at lunch, right M? ;) ]. So there you were, [...]

Shoes and Straps: They help a lot

There’s a term in Psychology known as closure. It’s when we as humans take in incomplete images, and without conscious effort, our minds “fill in the blanks”. For instance, in the above image we see a dalmatian. In fact, the image is just a bunch of black blotches, but in the way they are arranged, they appear [...]

The Wedding and After

After a man marries a woman, he no longer struggles with immodesty.  He delights in his wife, and can see all he needs to at any time.  She fulfils his every desire and need, and he needs no other. I wish, very hard, to say this was true, but it is not, and this is [...]

They Just Can’t Be Understood

As boys and girls become teens and then young ladies and men, there are subtle changes in the way they react to each other.  The physical attraction is still there, and the pressure is still very real, but the relationships that a person goes through and their life experiences can help discipline them or cause [...]

Girls Have Curves

I bet that surprised some of you. Physical changes occur in both boys and girls—I believe girls start to change first—and it is about this time that boys will start to recognize that girls are different and they will react differently to that realization. It’s also at this time that a boy will start to [...]

The Competition

At some stage of development—there’s no hard and fast rule—girls and boys begin to realize that there are, indeed, differences between them.  Boys want to play athletic activities and video games.  Girls play house and with dolls.  Battle lines are drawn, and at summer camps everywhere one sex starts to tease or mock the other [...]

What?! We’re Different?

In order to try to better help better understand what goes on in the mind of a guy, I believe it will be instructive to look into what happens at the different stages of growth—because at these different stages different thoughts, feelings and impulses are in effect.  I believe that if you could unlock these [...]

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