Of the times that are available from Union28, this is as close to the line that they get as far as modesty. 

The message, great as always.  The location of that message—yeah, that might be a problem because of the other things…

The straps are on the border of being too small, as well as the depth of the shirt.

However, I can definitely see this as something that’s worn in the home in the summer or something like that.

So, it’s not enough for me to say not to buy this shirt, but I would not wear this in public!

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A different take on the whole “He loves me, he loves me not” is this shirt from Union28.

"He loves me, he loves me a lot, he loves me…"  Any way the petals fall, you’re a blessed woman!  This modest "my husband rocks" daisy v-neck will brighten any day!

This shirt is modest, but it’s also a v-neck.  So, depending on the body type you might want to be careful.

The wording is in a decent location, the only thing that drew my eye was the location of the highest flower—but it’s not a big deal.

White?  Daisies might grow in the rain, but not this shirt!

What do you think?

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Union28 has a way with making husbands and wives feel special—if your spouse will wear the shirt!

In this case, this woman’s proclaiming that she loves her husband like she did when she married him—or that she’d marry him all over again…

The t-shirt covers everything it should, it’s opaque.  It’s a nice color, and the text is fine.

These shirts would work really well as wedding presents, anniversary presents, or for a spouse to surprise the other some day!

I mean, how can you go wrong with both building your marriage and wearing something modest!?

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This shirt is interesting, in that it comes in a different style than the shirts that we’ve already reviewed.  This shirt, which proclaims that your husband is your best friend, comes in an opaque and a sheer version.

For this photo, the model is actually wearing a beige camisole (which you can probably see better clicking through the site) so that nothing shows through.

I’m sure that this is a pretty cool style, and I could definitely see an angle where this could be interesting at home, but what do you think about shirts you can see partially through?

As far as the text, it’s perfectly fine to me, though I wonder why there are lips on there, since no guy I know wears lipstick.

Maybe I’ll have to pick up one of these for my wife!

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If you’re looking for marriage related t-shirts, Union28 is the place to go.  They have all different kinds of shirts that proclaim your love or admiration for your husband or wife.

Today we’re looking at the I Love My Husband Winged Tee, which features a red shirt with an ornate design on the front.  The shirt itself is modest, in that it seems to be a decent length (regular t-shirt length?), and covers everything without be translucent or too tight.

As for the graphic, it’s not bad in its location, and I find my eyes actually drawn to the neckline wondering if the image is too high, rather than anywhere else.

The text has a psychological effect, as well, of telling men that this gal loves her husband.  Which is always a good thing.

Your thoughts?

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From what I can tell, the Junior cut differs in how long the sleeves are and may be a bit more fitted.  The neck hole looks a bit smaller, but it’s hard to tell.

In both cases, the shirt has a really positive message when it comes to marriage, though I think the Ladies’ cut may be a bit more modest.

What do you think?

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Union 28 has a neat message—not only does it promote modest clothing, but it’s primary mission is to celebrate one’s spouse (or in the case of children, one’s parents) with style.

So, what you’ll find at this site is a lot of tees, pants, and even (gasp!) underwear with the idea of supporting one’s husband and wife visibly.  There are also links for marriage tips that you can read up on to help you marriage!

In the case of this shirt, it might be a little tight on top (look at the left of the shirt on the model’s right arm to see what I’m seeing), but I have no problem with this shirt.  The text isn’t totally on the bust, and like a wedding ring, it’s promoting a current relationship and testifying to how good that is.  That does carry some weight when it comes to the battle of the mind that men go through.

Married ladies, would you wear a shirt that proclaims that “My Husband Rocks”?

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It’s funny.  When you first met, you and your husband both dressed to impress.  You brushed your teeth, you put on your favorite scent and you wore clothes and colors the other liked.

And then you got married—and the joke goes that the wedding cake made you put on 10 pounds.  The funny thing is, your first child probably added 15 pounds to him.

As the two of you age, society presses on you to stay thin—him, not so much.

However, you’ve also realized one of the benefits of modest clothing—not as much muscle tone or skin is showing, so you don’t need to worry as much about your figure.

The both of you decide that you no longer need to impress or attract, until that cute guy or girl at work turns your head.

Modesty: Not An Excuse to Let Yourself Go

While it’s true that working on your weight should be something that both of you should work on, with modesty comes the responsibility to continue being the man or woman that your spouse married.  That means that you remain attractive to him, that you seek out ways to please her, and that you continue to build that desire.

No, it’s not that you have to be “in love” all the time, but you should still find one another physically appealing.

Attracting Your Spouse

To help you in this endeavor, we here at Is This Modest? will be exploring the idea of how you can continue to maintain the attraction of your mate in this new series, and if you have any ideas or things you’d like to see covered, feel free to leave them in the comments below.

For those of you that aren’t married, there will be things here for you as well!

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On a la Modest, I talked about Lolita fashion and its roots from the Victorian age. Even taking bustiers into account, you have to admit that fashion back then was much more modest than today. A friend of mine likes to view dressing modestly as a way to feel like royalty–a princess finely dressed. Centuries might have affected fashion trends, but men’s minds have not changed over the years. This is not to say that men alone are evil. They were made to be visual, and women were made to desire love from men. We just have to cater to our nature of being like this in the right way. Immodesty is like junk food. It satisfies you temporarily and is never good for you. Showing skin to attract men (or even to compete with women) might get you the attention you want, but it is almost never love that you end up getting.

As I like to say, “Keep immodesty within the marriage bed!” Married women can get all the fun they want with lingerie as clothes for their husband’s eyes only! Ironically, I only really took the importance of modest fashion to heart when I got married. I’ve never really been happier with the way I carried myself since I started pushing away my insecurities by not wearing clothes that attracted the wrong attention. I realized that I gave away part of myself to other men through the way I dressed, and essentially stole from my husband what he alone should’ve cherished.

To the single women out there, it is best to start now. I understand how hard it is to even attract men in this day and age, where sexually infused fashion is rampant, but it will pay off one day to be with someone who cares deeply about who you are, enough to protect you from himself. When you incite a man to lust, you do not win him. Lust takes over, and it is greedy. Like any type of greed, it wants more. Do not expect that luring a man with lust will keep him faithful to you. Modesty is not really the end-all to lust, but it certainly helps to keep minds pure.

In addition to its benefits to single men and women, dressing modestly can help couples in a small way by not adding to the temptation that husbands and even pastors have everyday to look at other women lustfully. Let’s not be greedy and steal their minds away. Lust really eats up men, and contrary to the momentary pleasures they might get from it, they ultimately do not like its effects. Doing your part says that you love all men and want to help them see the beauty in you through purity and not lust. Purity goes a long way. It’s not really synonymous with chastity. You can be pure and be sexually active in the context of marriage. Most guys deep down want a girl who will give them everything without inhibitions but only to them. If you give yourself to other men by inciting lust in their minds through the way that you dress, then you are not really saving yourself fully for your future husband. The Bible says that if a man looks at or thinks about another woman lustfully, then he is already committing adultery. In your own small way, by dressing modestly, you really are helping to tame lustful thoughts. It shows that you really care, and in turn, most “husband-material” guys will appreciate this a lot.

Dressing “down” gave me many heartaches. It attracted so many of the wrong type of guys. I’m glad that God was sovereign and landed me with an amazing stud who encouraged me to be modest-fashionably forward (even before we got married).

Check out this video by Jason Evert of Pure Love Club:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=80FOpC5oKww

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The truth is that many of us want to be loved.  We want someone to notice us, to care for us, and as we get closer to the person we love we may feel more free to be more “real” with them.

This may mean that we feel that we can let our guard down, that we don’t have to watch everything we say, and that we may even let them see us in states that we wouldn’t let others see us in.

The truth of the matter is that, if you’re not married, you are not married.

I know, profound.

This is one of the hardest times, I think, to be modest with each other because of the amount of feelings, emotions, and hormones that are running all at the same time.

The thing to remember when you’re in this situation is that it will all be special soon enough.  Before someone is married it seems that you’ll never get married.  When you’re married, you get to the point that you can’t remember when you weren’t—and that is a good thing!

I know it’s hard to fathom, and I know that you’re busy making sure that he finds you attractive, but the thing to keep in mind is how other people see you, and that you are not his until you’re married.

So, make sure to keep it about who you are.  Remember what your convictions are, and that you’ll have a lot of time to be together.

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After a man marries a woman, he no longer struggles with immodesty.  He delights in his wife, and can see all he needs to at any time.  She fulfils his every desire and need, and he needs no other.

I wish, very hard, to say this was true, but it is not, and this is something that we must realize and take into account—especially with all that’s going on in our culture today.

Living Together, Shacking Up, Living In Sin—You get the idea

Part of the problem with today’s culture is that marriage has been extremely devalued—to the point where women are compared to cars that you should test drive and make sure you get the latest model—or one with the least amount of miles on her.

With that has come the whole concept of comparison.  What I mean by that is that whereas in years gone by a man and a woman would only ever have one sexual partner their entire life, now they have multiples—and that’s seen as ok.

This directly relates to modesty, because now every woman is an object, something new and different to find out.

The Wedding

As far as modesty goes, what a strange time a wedding is.  It’s that time where every rule is turned on its head.  The woman intentionally goes out to find something to wear that will entice her husband sexually.  They see each other without clothing—and that’s as far as this family friendly blog writer will go.

They can’t get enough of each other during that week, and for a long time thereafter.

But he’s now seen “everything”—so is he cured?  Probably not.

After The Wedding and Into the Marriage

I will say that it’s not the same after being married as before, and I think there’s a good reason.  I believe that there is a physical reaction to seeing a pretty face/body—it’s a hit, or like a drug, where it feels good.

And because you’re not together all the time, a guy can look toward another girl and see something and feel something.

That’s made ten times worse by marketing and advertisements.  Men are now bombarded with images of girls using facial expressions that indicate a favorable reaction, whereas if they were to meet in person the girl would not give them the time of day.

Bodies are airbrushed to the point that the girl in the picture looks nothing like a real girl—and that just makes his comparisons worse.

If he needed to be careful not to look before marriage, he needs to be careful to only look at her after.  Ladies, here’s where you can help—you were all concerned about what he’d see on your wedding night (you may have tanned, gotten your hair done and lost weight), what is he seeing now?  Yes, be modest outside the house, but inside, draw him in like only you can.

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As boys and girls become teens and then young ladies and men, there are subtle changes in the way they react to each other.  The physical attraction is still there, and the pressure is still very real, but the relationships that a person goes through and their life experiences can help discipline them or cause them to get on a crash course to certain doom.

Well, perhaps that’s a little melodramatic, but I think you’ll understand what I’m saying in a minute.

A Healthy Desire

God made men and women to desire companionship—and that companionship is on many levels, one of them being physical.

The physical desire is strong in men—and it starts with sight and works its way throughout his being.  He needs female companionship to complete him in all sorts of ways.  He craves it—and that’s part of what feeds his curiosity and his longings to the point of lust.

The desire is healthy, and it’s supposed to reach it’s fulfillment in marriage, but it’s often easy for it to degenerate into lust.

We Weren’t Wired to Wait

Seriously, I know it’s a topic for another time, but the more I read, ponder, and look at marriage historically, the more I’m under the impression that men and women were never meant to wait until their twenties or thirties to marry.  I mean, Adam and Eve were married when they were two days old!

The problem is that there is a lot of pent up sexual desire and no morally acceptable outlet but marriage.  So, the young man struggles with the war going on inside him: wanting, desiring, feels like needing, to have a woman to love—emotionally and physically.

They say that girls can be guilted into sexual relations—I believe that guys can be manipulated as well by the same tactic.  It all depends on who has more discipline in this area.

Discipline

That’s right, self discipline is the key.  The guy exercises it by not being alone with a girl, by making sure to keep his eyes away from things he might be tempted to lust after, and by watching his viewing habits.  He needs to keep his mind focused on other things, or he will find a way to feed that desire and his curiosity.

The godly/modest woman helps him here by not making it easy for him to stumble when looking at her.  It helps him focus on who she is instead of what she is.

Logic would say that all women are equipped pretty much the same as far as having certain body parts.  Except this isn’t logical—men see differences, they compare, and they contrast.

The Gradual Increase of Lust

Lust has a way of growing, it gets fed by an action that requires more.  As a guy sees a part of a girl, it no longer satisfies him—no longer feeds his curiosity or his craving to see that any more.  He must see more.

A guy can lust looking through a J.C. Penny magazine.  He can fill his mind with sex by reading books around the house.

But the modest girl isn’t giving him anything to look at.  She’s not feeding his desire to see more—whereas he might see more with someone else.

So, discipline is key—the guy at this age is looking for a life-long mate, and yet has to be restrained.  Take this with you in your relationships.  If you better understand what he’s thinking and going through you’ll better be able to anticipate where he might have difficulty.

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Weddings are a strange time.  Not only is it a lot of work for one day, the most money you’ll probably spend on yourself for one event, and a moment that will change your life, but it’s also a time when most people shift away from the normal and glimpse another world—as it were.

Weddings are a time of change:

• From singleness to a couple.
• From belonging to yourself to belonging to another.
• From part of one family to part of two.
• From the focus on your passions to a focus on yours.

As part of this change, the girl, for just that day, becomes that princess and the guy, for just that day, becomes that handsome knight.  Reality is bent for just that day as we spend what it takes to enjoy that time together.

And, just for that day, many modest and pure young ladies will show things they would be embarrassed to show any other time because it’s for their new husband.

She wants to be Beautiful

There is nothing more beautiful than a bride on her wedding day.  Her face is bright.  Her makeup just so.  She’s spent money getting her hair done, and she feels like the most valuable person in the world.  The man she loves is about to pledge his enduring love to her, and she wants to be her most beautiful for him.

It’s tradition that the groom does not see the wedding dress before the wedding , and for good purpose.  She wants to see his stunned face when she emerges on their big day.

She wants to be Attractive

There’s good reason that she’s gone to all this trouble—and it’s not simply because she’s looked through one too many bride magazines.  She wants to feel the part of the princess.  She wants her future husband to believe she’s the most beautiful person in the world.  She wants him to want her.  She wants to outshine all those that are there, and prove just why she is the person that he chose to marry.

She wants to be Sexy

She’s remained pure for this moment—or even if she hasn’t, she wants to be thought of this way.  She’s spent money on the wedding night attire, and knows that, in the back of his head he’s thinking about it.  She wants him to think, to wonder, to desire, perhaps even to lust after her.

And it’s a combination of these things that pushes her further than she has gone before in terms of modesty.  It is these things that encourage her to get a dress that will show off her best features—her curves, her figure, her shoulders, her chest.  She’s encouraged to show some, but not too much.  To give him a glimpse of how much she wants him.

If only it were just him and her.

She’s the Focus of Attention

The reality is that many will see the bride, and many may have the same reaction.  Just as she’s trying to get his attention, many will see all the same things.  Sure, it could be looked at as “Look at what he’s getting, don’t you wish you were?” but that’s not the attitude of a woman who’s life has been based on purity and humility.

The woman of purity and humility certainly has some hidden things for her husband, but those things are hidden, while others are left to guess.  The woman of purity knows she’s the focus of attention so she sets the bar high as an example for those to follow.

It is this woman that will be a joy to her husband, a helper, and not a trophy.  This woman is more than simply “woman”.  There are many of those.  She’s special because she’s saved everything for him.  And in the end, that’s what will be more valuable.

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