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Hello,

First of all, let me introduce myself.  I am a married man, almost 36.  That's important, because, although we have it in mind, we don't have any children…yet.

My wife and I have discussed the way we want to raise our children time and time again.  One thing we both agree on is that, early on, they begin to form their identities based on what they see their parents doing.

Which is why my wife and I both already practice modest dressing, or, I should say, it's one of the reasons.  The other is that our Church is very strong in the modesty department.

One thing that has occurred to me many times, though, is that, in quite a few cases where young ladies slip into the destinations that immodesty is the path to, young girls want to feel like they are loved and that they are needed.  It's been my observation that they can truly form lifelong patterns from these tender years.

Which is why I have decided that, when we do have daughters of our own, I will do everything I can to make sure they understand.  I will call them my "beautiful geniuses."

It's our feelings that this, more than any other, thing may be the way to ensure they know where the right path is, that their daddy thinks they are already very beautiful and very smart.

Agree or disagree?

Benjamin, you're on the right track. If your daughters do not hear from you that they are beautiful, they will try to find someone else to tell them that. My Dad is not the kind of man to tell his daughters that, and it is only by God's grace that I was saved much grief. However I will caution you on this–You don't have to make your daughters vain and spoiled in order to make them feel beautiful.  A good article on that is"The Princess Disorder" on CrossEyed. If you don't spoil you daughters, but let them know that you think they are beautiful, your effort to teach your daughters modesty will be well on it's way to success.