One of the things that I’ve had to continually remind myself is that it’s no good getting in rush to be late to end up pulled over on the side of the road or worse—in the hospital because of an accident.

Still, it’s hard not to want to speed when you’re going to be late—and worse when you think going a little faster would be the difference of being late and being on time.

So, here’s where today’s lie comes in to play:

“We’re going to be late.” Really means….
“Now I have a legitimate excuse to drive like a maniac.”

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I’m sure your husband feels that he does a lot of work, and I’m sure that he does, in his own way.  The interesting thing in today’s lie is that there’s truth in both directions, and that there’s a difference in expectations.

“I got a lot done.” Really means….
“I found ‘Waldo’ in almost every picture.”

Wives, how many times have you looked at your husband and you have seen him sitting there watching television or doing something on the computer and you have judged him?  On second thought, don’t try to count.

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We joke, but may people in America could stand to lose a few pounds.  Odds are your husband is one of them.

The problem is laziness—and it’s funny what we’ll do in order to be lazy.

“I’m getting more exercise lately.” Really means….
The batteries in the remote are dead.”

Growing up in my house, we didn’t have a remote control—well we did, it was me.

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Men like to think they know everything.  That’s part of the reason (I’m sure) why they don’t stop for directions, they don’t read the instructions, and what makes it more irritating is that they will seldom admit to their lack of knowledge on a particular subject:

“It would take too long to explain.” Really means….
“I have no idea how it works.”

I’m sure all of your heads are nodding in agreement.

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Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.  Proverbs 11:22

EXTERNAL BEAUTY ALONE IS NOT TRULY BEAUTIFUL – NOT TO GOD AND NOT TO MEN!

There are many women who have stunning outward beauty.  And many women strive to have the ultimate hair, figure, complexion, make-up and wardrobe – some to the point of obsession and idolatry.

But no matter how perfect a woman’s body – her character can tarnish her beauty, smearing grime, mud and filth on her outward glory.

It’s not difficult to find a beautiful woman without discretion.  Almost every prime time TV show and reality TV program showcase these women daily.  It’s fascinating – and a bit horrifying – to watch a gorgeous woman show her true character. Her attitude, promiscuity, immodesty, pride, vulgarity, profanity, arrogance, gossip, unjustifiable anger, attacking nature, selfishness and lack of virtue cast such an ugly shadow over her facial features that her beauty can become completely overshadowed by her sinful, ungodly, unholy character. Eventually she doesn’t even LOOK beautiful anymore. No external beauty can mask the ugliness of a sinful character. It shows on her face.

WHY A PIG?

According to God’s Law in the Old Testament – pigs were considered to be “unclean” animals. The Jewish people were not to touch or eat pigs. They didn’t even own pigs because the animals were considered to be filthy. God is SO very wise! He knew that if improperly cooked, pork could easily cause his people serious illness and His Law protected them from sickness and even death. Of course, they didn’t know about the infections pigs can cause. They only knew that God said not to eat or touch pigs.

A valuable gold ring would suddenly be of very little value if it were in such a nasty, filthy place as a pig’s nose. What could look beautiful and precious on a young bride does nothing but look out of place and distracting on a pig.

A woman with no discretion (modesty, virtue, chastity, propriety, wisdom, proper use of godly femininity) is herself living in a filthy, vile, ungodly and repugnant way. Her external beauty is out of place because it is smeared with the filth, vulgarity and sinfulness of her soul.

A beautiful piece of gold jewelry is lovely in the right place. A beautiful face and figure on a woman are lovely when her spirit is godly, modest, gracious, wise, discerning and submissive to God.

Lord,
I pray that You will help us to cultivate the inner beauty of the heart – a gentle and peaceful spirit that does not give way to fear. A spirit that is submissive to You, to Your Word and to our husbands if we are married. Let us truly be women of eternal beauty in Your sight!
Amen!

A lot of times when men say “She doesn’t understand me” it’s an excuse because they haven’t tried hard enough, but sometimes it’s because she’s just gotten to the point where she knows all your stories:

“My wife doesn’t understand me.” Really means….

“She’s heard all my stories before, and is tired of them.”

Men have trouble with communication.  It’s not that they have trouble talking—it’s usually that they have trouble listening, and most people—and men are included here—have a face they were in public and in private.  Unfortunately, after time has passed men will spend more time with the public face on to everyone else and the private face with his family.  The private, exhausted face is not a pretty sight.

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A lot is said in modesty circles about how one dresses effects others.  We talk a lot about hem lines, neck lines and clinginess, but there’s a bigger issue at stake than simply whether or not you cause a brother or sister to stumble—mainly, are you setting a good example?

From the moment your first child is born, they are watching you.  They watch what you say, how you relate to others, and whether your life matches what you tell them.  The best I  give to new parents on discipline is to be consistent—this goes for both following through with what you say you are going to do, but also living out what you preach to them.

This is part of the reason that a recent article at Ruby Eyed Okapi struck such a never with me:

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