For Whom Are You Dressing Your Best?

It’s funny.  When you first met, you and your husband both dressed to impress.  You brushed your teeth, you put on your favorite scent and you wore clothes and colors the other liked.

And then you got married—and the joke goes that the wedding cake made you put on 10 pounds.  The funny thing is, your first child probably added 15 pounds to him.

As the two of you age, society presses on you to stay thin—him, not so much.

However, you’ve also realized one of the benefits of modest clothing—not as much muscle tone or skin is showing, so you don’t need to worry as much about your figure.

The both of you decide that you no longer need to impress or attract, until that cute guy or girl at work turns your head.

Modesty: Not An Excuse to Let Yourself Go

While it’s true that working on your weight should be something that both of you should work on, with modesty comes the responsibility to continue being the man or woman that your spouse married.  That means that you remain attractive to him, that you seek out ways to please her, and that you continue to build that desire.

No, it’s not that you have to be “in love” all the time, but you should still find one another physically appealing.

Attracting Your Spouse

To help you in this endeavor, we here at Is This Modest? will be exploring the idea of how you can continue to maintain the attraction of your mate in this new series, and if you have any ideas or things you’d like to see covered, feel free to leave them in the comments below.

For those of you that aren’t married, there will be things here for you as well!

I'm a 35 year old guy married to the most beautiful woman in the world (VirtuousBlonde) for 10 years, and has 5 mostly adorable children-- depending on whether they've had a nap, of course. I'm a software developer by trade, though I like to write on various topics. I got my start in blogging at MInTheGap in 2004 writing about culture, politics and got started talking about modesty on this site just 3 years ago.