Where is the line that separates modest from immodest? — We're wondering that too.
February 5, 2011 by MInTheGap
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It may be that you wear skirts only to church, just when you’re dressed up or all the time.
It may be that you’ve worn skirts your entire life, or just started recently.
We want to hear your stories, and that’s what this post is for!
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I wore mostly jeans until I was about 13 and we started attending church with a group of people that thought it was best (or sinful to not) to wear skirts. At first I did about 50/50, but I’ve gradually gotten to where I love to wear skirts most of the time because I feel more feminine and romantic. The last several years I’ve put on a little weight on my bottom half and I really don’t like wearing jeans anymore because I can hide with a skirt what I can’t hide in pants.
Many people who read this site do wear skirts a lot– and I think there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s definitely something that you can get used to.
I’ve always worn skirts (or dresses) to Church ever since I can remember. In 7th grade, I was bullied and suddenly, I was the only girl wearing skirts to Church. Even though this was a good Christian Church and school, the kids weren’t very Christian-like to me and mocked me for wearing modest skirts. (Their typical skirt was mid-thigh.)
So I came home and gave my mom a hard time. I constantly questioned and pleaded to wear pants to Church. To my dismay, she said no. This lasted for about 2 years…until high school. My parents pulled me out of school and started homeschooling. Without all the peer pressure and bullying, I became confident and realized skirts were not only respectful, but flattering and feminine. I can’t recall a time since then that I’ve questioned wearing a skirt to Church. Now I even wear (modest) skirts to interviews, work, and shopping. It shows feminity, maturity, and respect.
My only problem now is finding modern, modest skirts to wear, so I’m glad I found NC apparel. :)
It’s tough standing out, especially when you’re a teen. I had a similar experience as a guy that kept wearing more dressed up clothing when I moved from private schooling to public schooling, and I got it bad for not wearing jeans like the rest of the people there. I even had one person volunteer to pay me money to wear jeans. It wasn’t for 3 years until it started to settle down. Basically, it’s taking a stand and then deciding that you’re going to do what you believe regardless of what other people think– and it’s a great lesson to learn!
I’ve always worn skirts, dresses, or culottes. (Except the occasional PJs or pants under skirts.) It was the belief of my parents that skirts/dresses are meant for women to wear, in accordance to the difference between male and female in the Bible. It is my belief, as well, and they are fun to wear. :)
A good reason to wear skirts!
Growing up, I did not wear skirts at all, except for when I was very little. I cannot even remember owning a skirt until… uh, until I was 16 or 17. I guess my parents (and my grandmother, who took care of me during the day) thought it was not practical. I’m not from a church-going family, so I didn’t even have much in the line of “Sunday best” – Sundays were for sleeping in and relaxing.
I bought my first skirt when I got interested in Christianity and church and such… I wanted to fit in! :-) So, gradually, I added skirts to my wardrobe, but I am mostly a jean and t-shirt kind of gal.
Now, in my late 30′s, I’ve come to love skirts – the longer, the better! It feels soooo feminine and lady-like to wear them. Granted, for everyday (and chasing my boys!) I still mostly wear jeans, but I love LOVE my skirts and dresses! :-) And with long skirts, I don’t have to worry about “sitting pretty” so much, because they keep me covered. LOL
Interesting story, Ilka. You’re right, it’s best if you can have something practical to wear that looks good as well. Hope you catch your boys!
Mmmmh… practical yet not frumpy is sometimes a tall order.
And at least the little boy is easy – he can’t walk yet! LOL The 4yo is the difficult case, though. ;-)
Love my NCA maternity skirt in khaki (still wearable, thanks to an adjustable waistband) – looks good, but it’s quite the workhorse, too! :-D
I’ve worn skirts to church all of my life, but in the past few years I have started wearing them more throughout the week. My friend has always worn skirts and she looked so comfortable all the time it made me want to wear them more often. I live on a farm so skirts are not very practical and can get caught on the machinery more easily. I don’t wear them at the farm too often. I think the more immodestly dressed people I see, the more I want to cover up and look feminine. I think modest length skirts that fit nicely and are not too expensive can be hard to find.
I can always tell the people that "only wear dress clothes on Sunday" compared to the ones that are comfortable in what they wear. It’s something about fit and poise. As for farm machinery, I can definitely see where skirts could pose a problem there!
I found long skirts impractical at my office job, too. Whenever I moved my chair back, I had it roll over my skirt hem! Uggh. So… either slacks, or perhaps mid-calf skirts for the office.
I have always worn pants. My whole life I have hated wearing skirts. I have been married for almost 13 years and have 3 boys until November when I had a little girl. My husband asked me before we had her that if I had a girl this time would I please consider to wear skirts and have our daughter and any future daughters wear skirts and dresses. I had felt convicted about not wearing skirts for sometime. We believe it pleases God. We want to be separate from the culture. I want to be feminine and modest and I want my girls to be that way too. I felt convicted and so when my little girl came into the world I tossed the pants aside. I have been wearing skirts every single day since. And I love it! I want my daughter to always wear skirts too.
That’s really neat, and it’s encouraging on multiple levels– thanks for sharing!
Wow, that is a great story! I’m so glad you’re following the Lord in this, and your husband. :) Thanks for sharing!
Hm, my comment seems to have disappeared from earlier. The site is very slow for me. But anyway…
I have always worn skirts, dresses, or culottes, because my parents believed it was in accordance with the Bible, as in women not putting on men’s clothing, etc. So it was always very normal, and I believe they are the most feminine things to wear, even in our modern-day culture. They are fun to wear, and I especially like ankle-length skirts!
I’m sorry if the site is slow. There is a first-time-commenter rule where every time someone new comments they have to have their comment moderated in order to keep down the spam. Now that you’re in, you should see your comments come up right away.
I see. I wasn’t sure if that was the reason or if it had just not gone through before. Now I have two nearly identical replies! hehe
I can’t even get any of the forum posts to load right now. Do you know what the reason for that might be? I’ve had trouble getting it to load before, too, and we have wireless internet. Just curious. …Actually, it’s just the February 2011 Giveaway Challenge that’s having trouble. Perhaps because it’s more popular/busy?
From the time I was a child my mom taught us there should be a difference between men and women. We wore pants but they were elastic waist pants, because mom thought that’s something a man wouldn’t wear. Today I wear skirts/ dresses about 90% of the time, because I want to. One time a man I was dating asked me to wear jeans so he could see “how hot” my rear-end looked. Wow, that changed how I thought about jeans on women…(he was history after that). I began to notice other women’s back-ends in pants..and really it’s not a pretty sight. I also believe that God loves it when we are happy with our God-given place and not wanting to dress like a man.
If women could see through men’s eyes, I’m sure that many women would dress differently. Sure, there’d still be some that dressed to attract male attention, but many would think twice about some of the things that they wear "because I like the way that it looks".
That is a good story. :) I guess I like to wear skirts because they are roomy and they don’t stick to my legs. With pants the legs and waist are all different sizes and getting the waist and legs to both fit is a challenge for me. So that is another reason why I wear skirts. :)
I grew up somewhat of a cross between a tomboy and a super girly girl. Yeah, the weirdest combination you could think of! So for the most part, until I was about 9 or 10 I only wore pants – boys pants, mind you, because the girl’s jeans never fit me right. Nobody ever noticed, I guess…but now that I look at the pictures, it’s a little obvious.
Anyway, I think I started to develop a love for the more girly things in life at about 9, and started wearing skirts every now and then. Now, 10 years later, I <3 skirts and dresses and can't get enough. I also love my (now WOMEN'S) jeans too and love coming up with feminine outfits. I've had my co-workers and regular customers comment on the fact that I'm always so "dressed up", even when wearing jeans. So I guess I'm still a "mixed bag". :)
It’s interesting to read people’s stories and how we got where we are today. Thanks for sharing! I’m glad you’re a good example to those around you!
Interesting to hear your story, Cangralo. Even though I didn’t wear pants growing up, I was still a tomboy and a girly-girl too! :) My parents told me countless times, “Put your dress down!” It’s fun to hear of someone else who was both. Cheers for enjoying femininity! :)
I have always had skirts in my arsenal of clothing but I used to only wear them to church. Now I wear them because I like feeling like I am more feminine. I still wear jeans (mostly the dressier trouser type) or dress pants but I prefer skirts for their comfort and “go anywhere” use. It’s hard to feel underdressed in most places in a skirt…even a denim one!
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Exactly.
I’ve worn skirts/dresses all of my 20 years. However, it does not change the fact that I have chosen to wear skirts/dresses. In my opinion, anyone could wear anything, but I respect those that choose to be modest. Keep it up ladies! :)
i’d like to explain here the reason, why i like to wear pants for modesty; if i wear a dress, men’s view is attracted to my legs, even if the thighs are covered; this effect is enforced by wearing sheer pantyhose; the nylon fabric around my calfes and knees can illustrate my legs more than bare skin:
now i replace the dress by a simple pants/sweater-combo, my favorite every-day-outfit; my legs are covered; the observers view is redirected from the legs much more to the face; i can wear the same pantyhose underneath, just very few inches of them are visible around my ankles, never enough to create an impression of sexyness:
Pants can be a modest option, as long as they aren’t tight. Just as skirts that are short can be immodest, so can pants. It’s all in how you wear either of them.
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I wear jeans most of the time when I work for my Dad in the warehouse that he manages. Mainly because it’s dusty and dirty and I want to keep my skirts looking nice. I also need to climb up into the rafters occasionally…not the best idea in a skirt! :P
I guess I wear skirts because they are so comfortable. I worked in a dirty warehouse too. My skirts were always getting in the way. I only wore pants on the days I knew I was not going to be dealing with customers. I wore the skirts on the days I would be seen by customers and other people. I always liked the days I could wear skirts. I feel way more dressed up and professional in a skirt. And modest! :)
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I grew up in a uber conservative Christian home, that throughout the years has gradually turned more liberal. In addition to that ingrained modesty, I’m the only big girl in a family of nine children (7 girls total) leaving some issues of self-consciousness. BUT, as I grow into a woman and my self-assurance reaches a solid foundation the modesty still plays a role in my wardrobe choices. Out of a typical week, I’ll probably wear a skirt 5 or more days. To be honest, they’re just easier. My behind looks smaller, and I look and feel more feminine. I have been thinking about the skirt thing a lot lately, whether it’s a manifestation of my cultural upbringing, or my individual choice- it is most likely both.
My typical daily wear is a long sleeved ribbed shirt, with a tee over it, leggings, and a skirt, finished off by Birks/Dansko clogs. I’m not ‘earthy’ or anything like that, but I’ve long ago left the ‘stylish’ team for the comfortable feeling of modesty and convenience; and I won’t look back.
As I enter into the legal profession, the main concern I have is finding conservative yet comfortable suits/footwear. I don’t like frills, anything trendy, and I certainly do not gravitate to blinding colors for attention’s sake. If there are any suggestions, that would be great. I don’t want frumpy or outdated, but I will not take vogue.
I used to wear pants but I stopped wearing them after I started to have kids, they just became uncomfortable. That was 26 years ago. Now I only wear skirts/dresses. I like the roominess, but also I wear it for religious reasons. We learn that women should not show the division between the legs, that is what must be covered. Some say above the knee, othes will cover their whole leg.
I usually wear long as I dont like how my legs look anymore (veins).Otherwise I would wear just below the knee.
When I was younger, and being married, I did not want to attract the attention of other men looking at my legs. I am not worried about that anymore, however, when I dress, I dress so that I can feel pleased yet not attracted extra/unwanted attention. I do want WOMEN to notice me however, when I wear my MarSea Modest Swimwear http://www.marseamodest.com. I wear it (SwimDress or SwimTop and SwimSkirt) in order to attract interest, in the hope that other women will want to protect themselves from the sun and from wandering eyes.
As a wearer of a variety of clothing all my life I am in the process of switching over to mostly skirts and a lot of dresses. I have purchased some historical costume patterns as I will be wearing longer skirts for modesty and femininity purposes.
One blogger discusses the comfort factor in wearing skirts while working and I am excited to be incorporating them as I work on our farm. I have purchased calico fabric and look forward to making cotton skirts and undergarments from by-gone days.
Thanks for this discussion.
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I am a mother of 3 and wear mostly long skirts and dresses for my little girl I also am gravitating more to dresses. It is a personal conviction to be modest, you want people to pay attention to your countenance. It also has the religious aspect too.
I think you’re right on here, Amy.