Hot, Sexy Woman
We live in a culture that focuses on the external, and that culture has convinced every young lady that they should want to be “hot” and “sexy”.
It’s gotten so bad that we have now started to objectify and cast as objects of lust mothers and grandmothers! The sick part is, women are accepting these terms and even desiring that they would be considered applicable.
Beauty Fades, Right?
The truth of the matter is, there is a whole lot of money to be made by telling women that they don’t have to age. So we sell creams, fitness programs and diets all with the idea that if you can do these things you will be able to stay young and attractive.
In order to sell this concept, those we are shown and sold the idea that attractive people are all around us, and can be us, for just 3 regular payments of $19.99. The only problem is that we’ve repeated the idea about beauty being sold from a bottle so much that we’ve convinced women that they’re no one unless they’re turning heads.
Starting When You’re Little
My little girl has wanted to be pretty since she was 2. She has no concept of the terms “hot” or “sexy” and I hope that it’s a long time before she does. At some point in a young woman’s life she begins to want the attention of a boy and so she starts to do what others around her have done—she works on her appearance.
The problem is that since the culture has defined beauty now as the ability to get a carnal look—in essence, they’ve defined beauty down—that it’s easy to look good by the world’s standards. It’s all measures in how much you show to the guy and how far you’re willing to go.
How This Effects Those That are Modest
This effects those of us that prefer modesty in a couple of different ways.
First, it saturates men with the images of women being someone that shows off certain characteristics. He becomes to expect it, and the chemical reactions he gets off of seeing these kinds of things make him want to see more. It dulls his senses to it, and it causes him to see things even when a young lady is dressed modestly.
Second, it causes young ladies to want to look like their peers that are getting more attention. It makes it difficult to be modest when the guy that you like shows more interest in the girl in the mini-skirt than in you. And because of this, it makes modesty appear to be a burden rather than a blessing.
We need to reject these kinds of terms, and seek to exalt true beauty and prettiness. We need to encourage those around us that are standing tall for modesty and remind them of the benefits.
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This is very true, sadly. At the school I go to, for a long time I had guys constantly telling me how I was nothing but trash pretty much unless I was super thin and showing it off to boot. I heard something negative about every girl (myself included) in the department at school I’m in. The 1-10 rating system was talked of quite often. It made me so sick and lowered my image of myself for a time, no matter what I was wearing or how thin I became. That kind of talk inspired some girls at school to even starve themselves…looking almost anorexic. Then we’d be told that even if thin, any extra weight would be considered excessive. I pray my younger sisters never have to experience any of that! Thank God, He’s pulled me out of that bad mental pit and I don’t have to hear such negativity as much anymore due to some of the guys getting their eyes opened to the harm they’ve caused and some moving on.
Okay–this may be easy for me to say, as I don’t have a “special someone.” But my parents have raised me to have certain standards for the guy as well–and if he’s preferring the girl in a mini-skirt, he’s showing me something about his character that I don’t want in my future husband. I want a man who’s going to respect, appreciate, and even search for a modest woman. That’s something that motivates me to continue in modesty when I look around and feel like a frump just because my skirt reaches to my ankles or I don’t wear spaghetti-straps.
That was interesting and very true. I’m glad that you shared that. A great reason for continuing to wear skirts. :)
Very good article! It frustrates me when the guys paying more attention to less modest girls, I understand, but still. Even good, godly guys do it. They harp about how women should be modest, vote on surveys, etc. but then they go and ignore the women who loved them enough to listen and act. This is especially apparent at old fashioned dances that I attend occasionally. Guess who the best guys ask to dance first?
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This is a great article. I hear what Abigail Joy is saying up there, too. We go out of our way to dress modestly and nobody seems to appreciate it or notice.
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