Here Comes the Strapless Bride
The date is set. The flowers are ordered. The honeymoon has been planned.
For years she’s dreamed of the day—the day that she’d find the one man to whom she’d give her heart and soul.
She’s dreamed of what it would feel like, what it would look like, and wants to make that day perfect.
She’s even picked out the dress.
So, how come a normally modest woman would decide to wear to her wedding something that she would never wear at any other moment in her life?
Because that day is something different—that day is something special.
Modesty is all about dressing appropriately for the situation that you find yourself in. It’s perfectly find to wander one’s own house in Pajamas, but definitely immodest and/or inappropriate to wander outside one’s home that way.
When it comes to a wedding, we’ve been shown the picture of the “perfect bride” and more often than not—she’s wearing a strapless gown.
Don’t get me wrong—he’ll love you in just about anything you come down that aisle wearing. Strapless gowns are formal and can be very flattering. But a lot of them are a lot of work and end up showing more than the groom things that you wouldn’t show anyone else.
You should plan that your dress signal purity, both in its color and style. Being beautiful on your wedding day does not mean that you have to show off skin, it means that you should exude confidence and excitement.
Better to be conservative at the wedding, and then “fun” on the wedding night, than to be concerned that something could happen at the wedding!
If he likes strapless dresses, then maybe you’ll want to pair it with a jacket or something, so that you can be more “revealing” in private, not so much in public.
Oh, and if he knows that you’ve got something special prepared just “for his eyes only”, I’m sure he won’t mind that you aren’t displaying everything to everyone.
Dressing for Your Husband
- He’s Looking at Me!
- Modesty Before The Wedding
- Here Comes the Strapless Bride
- We’re Married, Now Can I Be Immodest?
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Yeah, that reminds me of my wedding dress. It actually had SLEEVES! Well, small sleeves that covered my shoulders and upper arms. And the top part was almost up to my collarbone! Yet it was such a beautiful dress, very feminine and many loved it! :)
I’ve seen that a lot too. Modest wedding dresses are almost considered frumpy by outsiders from what I’ve heard/seen if the dress even has cap sleeves. It’s kind of sad to me!
Yes, that is sad. I’ve always thought dresses with long sleeves are much more formal and elegant. I had a friend who had long sleeves on her wedding dress. They were lovely and came to a point out on her hand.
One solution might be getting married in winter….
Just for laughs!
I had sleeves on my gown and so did my rather unconventional but modest sister-in-law (her gown was actually purple. Hates white clothes!) She looked so stunning!
My mother’s wedding dress had long sleeves. I wanted to wear it when I get married, but unfortunately for me, it melted in a fire a long time ago. :(
Oh, how sad! :( I have my grandmother’s wedding dress…it has long sleeves too. Gorgeous dress! However, I hope it’s not eaten by moths by the time I need it. :?
Mine had long (though semi-sheer) sleeves. Still love it! :-)
BTW, sometimes churches (or temples, or what have you) have dress codes when it comes to weddings. I do believe that strapless (or just sleeveless!) gowns are a no-no in Jewish houses of worship, as well as in conservative churches.
Besides… IMO, strapless gowns are overrated. I have seen brides with big arms, or (sorry to be so blunt!) back fat. This looks something awfull in a strapless gown!! Also, when you have a big chest… let’s face it, you will need a bra. WITH straps. Means, better no strapless gown.
Same goes for bridesmaids! We have attended a wedding where DH blushed and averted his eyes when the bridesmaids walked in. :-P
Yes, strapless is definitely something that only certain body types can pull off, and then you have to face the issue of modesty. Whew! There’s so much to think about on this topic.
It’s so sad to see women dress like this at their wedding (or anytime). My sister and I were watching the show “Say Yes to the Dress” just for fun, and *all* the wedding dresses they tried on were strapless. When we were done watching it, I wanted to something different than that show, and my sister said, “Say yes to something else.” :P
Oh for the modest, classier days of yore! (Not that they were always good, either.)
Oh, dear! I always forget to log in before commenting. So that previous post was me. I was wondering why the Top Commenters stats weren’t going up. :\
It shouldn’t matter if you login or not, what does matter is that you use the same e-mail address. It’s the e-mail address that counts.
Ok, thanks. That’s good to know. And I might as well add a third sentence to make this count! :)
Our society has gotten more and more into meshing the wedding day and the wedding night. We’re forgetting that one is public and the other is not. We ought to be just as modest on our wedding day as at any other time when we meet our friends and family. :)
#Feb2011NCARating
reading this website makes me want to vomit.
This article made me think. I’d never considered the fact that strapless wedding dresses could be immodest, even though I would never wear one anywhere else (even to prom). Wonderfully written, and great food for thought!