Modesty Before The Wedding

The truth is that many of us want to be loved.  We want someone to notice us, to care for us, and as we get closer to the person we love we may feel more free to be more “real” with them.

This may mean that we feel that we can let our guard down, that we don’t have to watch everything we say, and that we may even let them see us in states that we wouldn’t let others see us in.

The truth of the matter is that, if you’re not married, you are not married.

I know, profound.

This is one of the hardest times, I think, to be modest with each other because of the amount of feelings, emotions, and hormones that are running all at the same time.

The thing to remember when you’re in this situation is that it will all be special soon enough.  Before someone is married it seems that you’ll never get married.  When you’re married, you get to the point that you can’t remember when you weren’t—and that is a good thing!

I know it’s hard to fathom, and I know that you’re busy making sure that he finds you attractive, but the thing to keep in mind is how other people see you, and that you are not his until you’re married.

So, make sure to keep it about who you are.  Remember what your convictions are, and that you’ll have a lot of time to be together.

I'm a 35 year old guy married to the most beautiful woman in the world (VirtuousBlonde) for 10 years, and has 4 mostly adorable children-- depending on whether they've had a nap, of course. I'm a software developer by trade, though I like to write on various topics. I got my start in blogging at MInTheGap in 2004 writing about culture, politics and got started talking about modesty on this site just 2 years ago.