The Perfect Quick Review
Last week, Is This Modest featured a man Quick Review. Up until this point, we hadn’t done many male quick reviews simply because, for the most part, they were mostly modest. Indeed, it was hard to find something that wasn’t modest1.
It wasn’t until we launched this photo (click to go to the original QR) that, I believe, we’re now able to illustrate something that we’ve tried to help the women readers of this site see for a while.
You see, one of the things that has been recurring on the Quick Reviews is the idea that Foy or I can pretty much find something to comment about for every photograph of a woman—Foy especially.
It got to the point where some ladies were questioning whether they could ever meet the standards of what we were saying, or whether they should even pay attention to us because we seemed to be too far out there.
But the comments on Man in Sweats illustrate that it’s not just something men are prone to do.
Some women, when discussing this picture or sweats in general, believed that sweats should be something men should avoid (my mom would be one of these). Some believed that men should avoid tight material (like spandex), some said it was “eww” rather than something attractive, and some were convinced that it was no big deal.
And that’s exactly what we’re trying to show you. To some, the layers that draw attention to a ladies chest are no big deal, but to some it’s something that gets them “hot and bothered”. To those of you that say “eww”, I would suggest that this may also be a form of sexual response—for a guy may look at cleavage and say “eww”, but he still looked and it was still immodest.
So, next time you see us make a comment on a QR that you may not agree with, remember Man in Sweats and take away the idea that, though it may mean that sweats are not forbidden, different people are wired differently and it’s important to acknowledge and adjust for it!
- flashy, yes, modest not so much [↩]
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I have to disagree on this one…
I didn’t see a single comment on that post that stated that this man’s outfit was immodest. In fact, most people said that it WAS modest but just not something that put forth a good appearance.
It would be the same for a woman wearing this outfit…while not immodest, it also doesn’t speak well of the wearer because sweats will always put forth an image of laziness.
As someone who has been frustrated with your QR’s in the past, I have to say that this argument doesn’t explain away the problem for me. I feel as though all QR’s do is teach people to judge what others are wearing when really we should be more concerned with ourselves. I realize that the purpose of the QR’s isn’t judgment, but if that is the outcome does the purpose really matter? What this basically said for me was, “well…we might do it, but YOU do it, too!!”….and in my opinion that doesn’t make it okay.
Just my 2 cents… :\
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I’m going to agree with Kristin … the comments from this post really didn’t have much to do with it being a modesty issue; just not something most women find attractive… to each his own.
Although my opinions would be way too conservative for most in regards to my thoughts on whether or not outfits are modest I also am bugged by the Q Reviews. I think they bring down the integrity of the site. I think it’s very valuable to talk about modesty and why it is important and it’s very valuable for women to realize how what we wear does affect men and that we are accountable for our part in that. But I think the QR’s get people caught up in judging/critiquing, seeking others opinions of what’s appropriate (kinda like back in jr. high) rather than seeking the Lord and allowing Him to direct us and others individually in what exactly is appropriate. God doesn’t put the same convictions of what’s modest on each person’s heart… that’s something I’ve had to learn.
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One can never please everybody…some have said they have a problem with seeing a girl’s ankles and even her bare feet (like in flip-flops, which I wear a lot since I live at the beach) where many others say it’s not a problem…I know I’ll never please the whole world, so I stopped trying so hard. Don’t get me wrong, I still see modesty as important, but when told to knit-pick an outfit apart (on a guy or a girl) we will naturally do our best to oblige.
Your final point is important. Everybody is different, and wired differently. Everyone’s “brain software” has different pieces of code (and viruses, to fit with the metaphor).
There is absolutely no reason that two people have to agree on any of this either. Isn’t it awesome to be able to have your own view?
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Great pajamas! Let’s hope he does not plan to wear this in public.
I agree with your last statement. Its basically the fact that we all look at each other and judge on some type of factor but never see ourselves on that side. Kind of like a double-sided mirror.
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