“Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz Book Review: Part 3
I became excited when I read a chapter in “Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” dealing with “kissing dating goodbye,” a term made popular after the release of Joshua Harris book, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” published in the late 1990′s. It is also one of my favorite books, so I was excited when I read Shelley Hitz opinions on dating and her belief that we should not date just for the sake of dating, especially if we are not ready to be in a committed relationship that will lead toward marriage.
In “Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” Shelley Hitz does an incredible job of covering the topic of dating, sharing her own opinions based on experiences in her past. The advice she gives in her book regarding dating was especially encouraging to me. I find that it is always good to get other’s opinions on the subject of dating or not dating. I decided in my early teens not to play the dating game, and I admit it is easy to feel like a fish out of water when all your peers seem to be playing the game very well, but at twenty-two, I don’t regret my decisions not to date around just for the sake of dating. Reading what Shelley Hitz has to say about dating, confirmed my decisions, giving me a kind of extra boost of encouragement.
Not only does Shelley Hitz discuss dating or no dating, she also talks about boundaries that need to be set in relationships with the opposite gender. She writes, “Your sexuality is a gift to be enjoyed with one person in a committed relationship called marriage, until that time, your sexuality is asleep.” She refers to scripture and explains that if we are not careful to guard our hearts, we can easily open the door for compromising situations to occur and find ourselves in deeper water then we bargained for.
Shelley also explains how flirting can lead to compromising situations as well, and advises us not to get carried away. Flirting can lead to things we never imagined we would get ourselves into. She explains that the Bible says in Proverbs 4:23 that we are to guard our heart for out of it are the issues of life.
All throughout the book Shelley Hitz includes scripture references from God’s Word to back up the points she makes. I encourage everyone who will, to read “Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz. It will give you insight, and possibly a new perspective, but most importantly it will encourage you in your walk with the Lord.
For more information on Shelley Hitz and her book, please check out her websites at the links below!
Mirror Mirror: Am I Beautiful?
- “Mirror Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz. Book Review: Part 1
- “Mirror Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz Book Review: Part 2
- “Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz Book Review: Part 3
- “Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz, Book Review: Part 4
- “Mirror, Mirror: Am I Beautiful?” by Shelley Hitz. Book Review: Part 5
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You might find my blog of interest where I critique Harris’s book.
http://www.ikdg.wordpress.com
Unfortunately Harris shares the defects of dating but not the problems his approach has caused over the years. I also think that what is appropriate for a teenager isn’t appropriate and sometimes counter productive to someone older.
Steve240s last blog post..What Is “Dating” And What Did Josh Harris Supposedly “Kiss Goodbye?”
“. . . I don’t regret my decisions not to date around just for the sake of dating.” ~Mardi
I agree with you. Just remember that you’ll never regret how pure you kept yourself! If/when I stand before my husband on our wedding day, do you think I will regret the “extra” measures I took to keep myself pure for him? I doubt it!!!! :)
Anne
Realize that many times the “kissing dating goodbye” mentality produces is people than avoid relating with those of the opposite sex vs. learning how to properly relate IMO.
This is just one of the problems with IKDG that one needs to be aware of.
Steve240s last blog post..What Is “Dating” And What Did Josh Harris Supposedly “Kiss Goodbye?”
Steve- I suppose that could be a problem for some people. I never thought of that because I can’t imagine NOT relating to guys!! What a boring place the world would be without them!!
At this point in my life I am enjoying non-romantic relationships with guys. Hopefully someday the Lord will bless me with a husband. But now I’m concentrating on following where God leads and strengthening my relationships with my family and friends (male & female).
Loved the book. But I really don’t agree. Dating is just to big a part of my life for me to “kiss it good bye”.
Steve, I will take a look at your website.
Anne, I agree with you, I seriously doubt I will regret keeping myself pure for whomever the Lord has for me to marry!
Hannah L, I am glad you enjoyed the book! As far as “kissing dating goodbye” that’s something everyone should pray about and decide for themselves!
Steve, I’ll take a look at your book as it looks quite interesting. Although I do agree with “Hannah L” because dating is just way to big a part of my life also for me to just “kiss it good bye”!
I agree that we should not take dating lightly. It is all too easy to fall into the dating trap and end up in a situation that is not easy to get out of.
On the other hand, dating is fine for those of us who just want to find a partner of the opposite sex to spend an evening out with. A lot of us just want the company of someone to chat to or go out and have a meal with. Should anything develop from this then that is the time to be careful.
I think if you are not happy with who you are this can be picked up on by partners when you go on dates. This can have a negative effect on the success of the date and consequently make you feel less happy with yourself. Sorting out your own issues may allow you to find your ideal partner in the long term.
.-= Stragegy Consulting´s last blog ..10 Top Dating Tips for Mature Singles =-.