Comments on: Whose Job Is It?

By: Lady Abigail

Lady Abigail — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 18:30:31 +0000

I agree. In the scriptures the father is held responsible for his daughter’s protection and purity. I think that would include modesty.

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By: Cleopatra Costumes

Cleopatra Costumes — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:17:01 +0000

I would tend to think it’s the mom’s role to ensure the daughter’s modesty. Modesty does not just cover the dress she dresses. To me, it is more than that. For example, the way our daughter carries herself in public, the way she sits while wearing a skirt etc. The Dad’s contribution in this area is perhaps limited to the “visual” contribution but a Mom knows know – simple because she had gone through that path before. Modesty must be cultivated from a young age, at least when the daughter grows up, it is “burn” into her certain things are just no-no.
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By: daniel

daniel — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:35:20 +0000

Whose job is it to keep a daughter pure?

By: Christin

Christin — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 21:36:39 +0000

THis is excellent. I never thought about it like that. I like that. Thank you. Christins last blog post..Happy Saturday!

By: anne

anne — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 16:05:30 +0000

Yay…a post on this topic. I totally agree with you MInTheGap! As the leader of his home, a father has a big part of the responsibility in the area of modesty.

I’m thankful that my Dad cares about what I wear and that he wants to protect me. Both my Mom and Dad are “advisers” in this area.

Just last night I was wearing a new sweater and my Dad told me that he liked it.:) That always makes me feel special!

So Dad’s, protect your daughters…but don’t forget to compliment them when they are modest, it means more than you’ll know!

By: Chrs

Chrs — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 00:07:02 +0000

Long shirts were the compromise that was eventually reached. Mine were supposed to be long enough that one couldn’t see skin no matter what position I was in, so there wasn’t much necessity for an undershirt.

You’re right, though, MIn, that I got a good standard of modesty from my dad, although I don’t adhere to it anymore.

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:06:30 +0000

I like the idea of “Daddy test”. And the link was crossed out because it wasn’t valid for some reason. I believe it’s now fixed.

By: [name redacted]

[name redacted] — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:52:05 +0000

Chrs – I personally think hip huggers are fine if you have a long shirt tucked in underneath them and are wearing a reasonable lengthed shirt over top. :)

By: [name redacted]

[name redacted] — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:48:39 +0000

I think it is the responsibility of both parents. However, to avoid the mother daughter struggle, I really like what an older, wiser woman told me. They would have “daddy tests.” The girls could buy whatever they wanted, but they had to pass the daddy test. If they didn’t, they had to return the clothes or modify them.

Random question – why is “modesty survey” crossed out?

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By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:31:55 +0000

I updated which poll was showing– I was supposed to be able to just link to the poll itself, but that doesn’t seem to be working.

Good for your boyfriend!

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:31:09 +0000

I find that women are much more interested in what’s in style that they sometimes miss the fact that the style has the purpose of drawing attention– so a lot of women are sympathetic to what’s in fashion and will get closer or cross the line. Be thankful that you had a dad that cared how you looked!

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:27:56 +0000

Your comment reminds me of something I read some time ago where a girl was wearing modest shorts, but after she left the house she rolled them up, and then rolled them back down when she got close to home. At the lowest level we’re all responsible for what we do, but being the father and leader in the home, and the one ultimately responsible to God for his family, your dad needs to lay out the guidelines (like you say he does).

By: Hannah L.

Hannah L. — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 12:01:14 +0000

I agree! When I buy something new, and it isn't, like, a denim skirt or something that I already have five of (*Grin*), I ask Dad what he thinks. If he doesn't like it, off it goes. If he does, cheers! Hannah L.s last blog post..An Amazing Giveaway

By: Anna09

Anna09 — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 11:58:26 +0000

Actually, the embedded poll appears to be dynamic- it just changed after my first comment to “have you ever had a lying-down picture taken?”

I’m confused!!

By: Anna09

Anna09 — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 11:56:52 +0000

Um…The embedded poll is showing as “do you share photos of yourself online?”

Anyway, my father lets me “get away with” more than my boyfriend does, actually. I’m not saying Dad would approve an immodest outfit, but he doesn’t mind if I wear shallow v-necks or certain other things, and my boyfriend does. I’ve learned (the hard way) that borderline immodesty doesn’t help but rather hurts my relationships with guys.

By: Chrs

Chrs — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 08:29:12 +0000

Advice is great. My dad’s demands, though, were less than reasonable in my estimation. I returned so many pairs of jeans, even though my mother helped me pick them out, that it was ludicrous–this was a few years ago when hip-huggers were the norm.

By: arielle

arielle — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 06:51:57 +0000

Yes.... coming from a daughters viewpoint, I rely on my dad to give me guidelines and to let me know if something is immodest!! Not completely and entirely because he is busy and not home all the time obviously so I have to make my own choices also. My mom helps out in a huge way too, but like you said, fathers need to keep a close eye on their girls *especially* in this area because they know all about the guys mind and what they will be thinking when they see that girl. And yes when it all comes down to it, I feel that being modest is my responsibility. Even if my father would okay an outfit, its my choice how I decide to wear it and present myself to others. arielles last blog post..Spring.