Comments on: Whose Job Is It?

By: Cleopatra Costumes

Cleopatra Costumes — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:17:01 +0000

I would tend to think it’s the mom’s role to ensure the daughter’s modesty. Modesty does not just cover the dress she dresses. To me, it is more than that. For example, the way our daughter carries herself in public, the way she sits while wearing a skirt etc. The Dad’s contribution in this area is perhaps limited to the “visual” contribution but a Mom knows know – simple because she had gone through that path before. Modesty must be cultivated from a young age, at least when the daughter grows up, it is “burn” into her certain things are just no-no.
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By: daniel

daniel — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 12:35:20 +0000

Whose job is it to keep a daughter pure?

By: Christin

Christin — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 21:36:39 +0000

THis is excellent. I never thought about it like that. I like that. Thank you. Christins last blog post..Happy Saturday!

By: anne

anne — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 16:05:30 +0000

Yay…a post on this topic. I totally agree with you MInTheGap! As the leader of his home, a father has a big part of the responsibility in the area of modesty.

I’m thankful that my Dad cares about what I wear and that he wants to protect me. Both my Mom and Dad are “advisers” in this area.

Just last night I was wearing a new sweater and my Dad told me that he liked it.:) That always makes me feel special!

So Dad’s, protect your daughters…but don’t forget to compliment them when they are modest, it means more than you’ll know!

By: Chrs

Chrs — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 00:07:02 +0000

Long shirts were the compromise that was eventually reached. Mine were supposed to be long enough that one couldn’t see skin no matter what position I was in, so there wasn’t much necessity for an undershirt.

You’re right, though, MIn, that I got a good standard of modesty from my dad, although I don’t adhere to it anymore.

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 16:06:30 +0000

I like the idea of “Daddy test”. And the link was crossed out because it wasn’t valid for some reason. I believe it’s now fixed.

By: [name redacted]

[name redacted] — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:52:05 +0000

Chrs – I personally think hip huggers are fine if you have a long shirt tucked in underneath them and are wearing a reasonable lengthed shirt over top.

By: [name redacted]

[name redacted] — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:48:39 +0000

I think it is the responsibility of both parents. However, to avoid the mother daughter struggle, I really like what an older, wiser woman told me. They would have “daddy tests.” The girls could buy whatever they wanted, but they had to pass the daddy test. If they didn’t, they had to return the clothes or modify them.

Random question – why is “modesty survey” crossed out?

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By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:31:55 +0000

I updated which poll was showing– I was supposed to be able to just link to the poll itself, but that doesn’t seem to be working.

Good for your boyfriend!

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 14:31:09 +0000

I find that women are much more interested in what’s in style that they sometimes miss the fact that the style has the purpose of drawing attention– so a lot of women are sympathetic to what’s in fashion and will get closer or cross the line. Be thankful that you had a dad that cared how you looked!