Comments on: Glimpsed by the Baltimore Sun-105

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:25:06 +0000

Yeah, those kinds of things are definitely not clothing option. Indeed, it’d almost be easier if the different sexes were on different islands!

By: Anna Grace

Anna Grace — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 17:44:19 +0000

Ha ha. I never thought of it that way. Though, when I was there, I was with my youth group. Definately different than being there on a honeymoon. Anna Graces last blog post..So Much More Than a Baby

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 17:20:15 +0000

Well, when you’re getting that exotic, except for satellites you’re practically clothing optional. :)

By: Anna Grace

Anna Grace — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:56:48 +0000

The circumstances could be a million different ways. Because of the fact that the above dress makes me think of the time I spent in Fiji, I was thinking of a secluded bungalow. Obviously, on some of the Fijian islands and resorts, it's really very secluded. That's not so much a modesty issue as it is logistics issue, in my opinion. Anna Graces last blog post..So Much More Than a Baby

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 16:05:09 +0000

I can definitely see inside a dorm. I mean, hey, I went to the shower in the dorm with just a towel. (Hope that doesn’t cause anyone out there to stumble! :) ) Different standards of offense with the same sex– just not sure how, in a non-dorm setting, one gets to and from said party dressed in clothing one wouldn’t wear in public?

Not answering the door is weird if it’s family! Of course, blankets (I suppose you’ve heard of them?) can cover you in bed. ;-)

By: ErinL

ErinL — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 14:11:24 +0000

@MIn: There are things I would wear around my dorm room (pre-marriage, obviously) with just my (all girl) room mates that I wouldn’t wear in public…Pajama pants, tank-tops etc. I wouldn’t wear anything scandalous around them, but they were still things I didn’t consider modest enough for public wear. I would (and do) feel uncomfortable around a woman with a low-cut shirt in any circumstance because it shows things I think should be reserved for them and their husband. However seeing more leg or arm isn’t something I would be offended by.
And the envy thing? Yes, it might be a problem, but that’s not really a modesty issue.
As far as wearing things alone as husband and wife in a house? Just don’t answer the door. ;-) Because if you carry your thoughts to their logical conclusion, husbands and wives should never wear anything “immodest” around each other because technically there is always a possibilty of someone coming to the door; including wearing a long skirt and sweater to bed in case company arrives. And where’s the fun in that???

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:34:25 +0000

I’m not completely sold on the difference. I mean, what would you say a difference in modesty that would be acceptable for a “girls-night-in”? I mean, I can see that pj’s might not have to be modest, but I’ve heard of women objecting to be subjected to seeing another woman’s low cut shirt. I would think envy could come into play there. And I’m not sure how you could guarantee that a married couple would be together if they were out of their house (even in the house has problems if someone shows up at the door…).

By: ErinL

ErinL — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 20:54:37 +0000

I agree with Anna Grace!

By: Anna Grace

Anna Grace — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 18:38:46 +0000

Yes, absolutely. If you're having a girls' night in versus being out in mixed company, different standards apply. Different standards would obviously apply if it's just a married couple together, as well. Anna Graces last blog post..So Much More Than a Baby

By: MInTheGap

MInTheGap — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 14:12:44 +0000

Perhaps it could work for that. But that all goes back to the question, is there different levels of modesty for different events? Different sets of people present?

By: Anna Grace

Anna Grace — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 02:37:09 +0000

This outfit is so close!!! It's not flashy, it's not showy. I can absolutely believe modesty of the heart is not an issue here. I think this would be the perfect dress for a honeymoon walk, just her and her hubby, along the shoreline. Stick a tee under the bodice and I think it'd be good for most anything else. Anna Graces last blog post..So Much More Than a Baby