Really Long Hair
Hair. Whenever I think of hair length I think of teaching my kids “he and she” and the difference between a guy and a girl. When they were younger, everyone was a “he”, and we trying to figure out how they could tell the difference, and we settled on hair.
As a rule of thumb, girls have long hair, boys have short. Of course there are exceptions to this rule—and they’re usually embarrassing exceptions (for us, not them). But what about “really long” hair?
That’s the question we’re attempting to answer today.
Can really long hair (like below mid-back) be a stumbling-block?
Personally, every time I’ve seen really long hair, like the one in the picture above, the only thoughts going through my head are “Man, that must take a lot of time!” Time to have grown that long. Time to clean in the morning.
My secondary thought is “does she occasionally sit on it?” “What if it gets caught in something?” So I don’t know that I’ve actually considered long hair to be something that would cause me to stumble.
Don’t get me wrong, I like long hair, and a lay that has attractive hair is something that is pleasant to the eye, and there may be guys that have trouble with this (I mean, there are some guys that are attracted to ankles!?), but I’m not one of them. My reaction is more curiosity than attraction.
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I’ll pass on what my best friend has told me. She’s not a Christian, and she has hair that’s been long enough to sit on for most of the 8 years I’ve known her. Judging from her experience, I think, yes, it can be something that attracts attention from men in a way that a Christian man would call a stumbling block. Can be, but isn’t necessarily.
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Hmmm… I’ve never seen a woman with exceedingly long hair that was actually in good condition (no flyaways, trimmed ends). I’m not really sure how hair plays into modesty. Generally though, shouldn’t we all just have the hair cut that flatters our face the most? Isn’t that the most modest choice?
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Long hair does not necessarily take SO MUCH time. You generally wash your scalp when washing hair and when it’s long it’s easy to put up and go. (taken from someone with very long hair and five kids)
Long hair is not a modesty issue. If the rest of your body is covered as it should be and you are truly modest, you really wouldn’t be eliciting impure thoughts.
Long hair is something most men generally like to see on women, but it’s not going to generate the bad attention that too much skin and tight clothes provoke.
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I’m with Jennifer, usually I don’t like really long hair because of the unkempt condition it usually is in. When I see someone with very long hair that’s nicely trimmed and healthy, I love it. I had waist-length hair for my whole life, up until a few months ago and I recently cut it to my shoulders.
Before
After (It’s even shorter now, it just barely sits on my shoulders.)
I’ve been told by most people that I look more attractive with shorter hair because my longer hair actually hid my figure quite a bit. So, based on that feedback, I think longer hair would be more modest. Someone else I know disagrees, because he believes that godly women have long hair (as a head covering) and wayward women have short hair. I think this is hogwash, personally, but whatever.
I’ve never in my life heard of long hair possibly being a stumbling block. 0_0 I used to have hair down to my thighs, but then I cut it to my shoulders and now (after an unfortunate incident involving a hair dresser and some scissors) it’s just below my ears. I’ve had MANY people tell me they liked the longer hair better because it seemed more attractive to them. But, almost all my teachers said they liked it shorter because it frames my face better, while some say they simply like short hair on girls.
IMHO, I’ve never seen one length as being more modest than others.
The bible says in 1 Corinthians 11:15 “But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for hair is given her for a covering.” . I think that since God clearly stated that it is a good thing for a woman to have long hair they should.
I agree with Nicole. God says that long hair is our glory, and it is good. (For females, obviously!!!)
I’m perfectly aware that there are circumstances in which it is highly impractical–if a person has an injury or condition that prevents them from taking care of things, etc. I’m not saying that every woman MUST HAVE LONG LONG HAIR!!! Just that long hair is good. :-)
Keeping in mind that some woman lose it due to cancer and such. Plus, I know some men are more attracted to shorter hair so their wives will naturally oblige.
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Personally, I don’t see how long hair can be considered modest or immodest. It’s not clothing, it’s part of our bodies. It’d be like saying women are immodest just for *having* curves. We all know that is neither true nor fair, because that’s how we were made by God – like Nicole said, the Bible says that a woman’s hair is her glory.
I can understand that hair might draw attention to certain areas, but as long as those areas are decently covered then it should be fine. If it *is* a problem, I don’t think it is our problem, but the guy’s responsibility to just not look.
(Of course, my opinion might be biased seeing as I LOVE long hair! ;-) )
In the past, I had long hair just because it was easier to pull up in a nice “ballet” bun for performances versus short hair just was harder for me to manage into a nice bun.
When I got older and taught instead of perform I started donating it whenever it got long (over and over). My husband mentioned to me one time he loved my hair long so I decided to have it long just for him. It just happen to be in the “growing out” stage when I met him and it reminded him of when we first met.
This idea is not for everyone but personally I was convicted to keep my hair for my husband only. I do not allow for my hair to be seen by other men because my long hair is for him. I pull it up daily which honestly does not take much time at all. I liked this discussion because I love long hair as well. I also happen to like shoulder length hair on men as well but it only looks good if it is nicely kept:)
I have to say that when I first read this I was really impressed and moved– I’m sure your husband loves you for what you’re doing here!
According to what I’ve read, before the 1900s, it was considered immodest for a woman to let her hair down outside the bedroom. I think it’s nice that you do that for your husband, and the reason that he wanted to see your hair long is so cute and sweet.
I have waist-length hair and I love it! I always feel so romantic and beautiful! :) It really doesn’t take much work. Wash and condition it, comb out with a pick (brushes are terrible for your hair) and let it dry. It’s actually easier than short hair because you don’t have to get it cut as often and you can trim it yourself at home in about 10 minutes and save money.
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Abigail – same here. I’ve had long hair for most of my life (since I was three!) and once one gets accustomed to it, it is quite simple to take care of. I did just recently get it cut to mid-back length, and I do it better for styling since it’s not so heavy.
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I had very long hair for a long time. For me it was a hassle because it got caught in things, it was too fine to curl, and it took a long time to put up (I had to use a lot of product to keep it in place). I cut my hair very, very short and suddenly felt confident and beautiful. I keep it short now because both my husband and I prefer it that way. In fact he cuts it for me when he cuts his hair which saves us a lot of money. I still love long hair on others but it’s just not for me.
In general, men like long hair, but the important thing is that your husband likes it.
WEAR A BURLAP SACK. Obviously. Why people think that religion isn’t controlling the lives of women when there are whole websites dedicated to teaching women to be paranoid about how their clothing affects the minds of perverted men is beyond me! Your body is your own. Do with it what you want to do, not what a man wants you to do and not what “God” wants you to do. Do not be the property of a man or a religion. Be your own property.
Because selfishness and pride are virtues and everyone considers people who look out for themselves as noble. I mean, why be open minded enough to consider someone else’s point of view when you’re obviously the only one that knows everything. And how ironic that you advise people not to listen to one viewpoint, but blindly accept another.
I have long hair. It isn’t really long, especially when it is curly. I really don’t think the length of my hair makes a difference in modesty. I suppose the way I choose to style it could, but mainly I think modesty is about the whole picture: overall appearance, attitude, the way one carries oneself, and the choice to live one’s life based on their moral/religious convictions concerning those things.