Hey, Miss Attitude
September 8, 2008 by Anna Grace
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Close your eyes.
Shoot, I just lost my whole reader base right there. Open your eyes again.
Now that you’re back, keep your eyes open and imagine a guy. Maybe he’s tall. Athletic build. Good hair. Great smile. He’s a cutie and he knows it.
Imagine a girl. Voluminous hair. Eyes that sparkle like crazy. Smile that lights up a room. And she knows she can wrap boys around her little finger.
Doesn’t matter if he’s wearing swim trunks or a full three piece suite.
Doesn’t matter if she’s wearing a mini-dress or a sweater and long skirt.
It’s all about the attitude. The root of modesty is humility. For a vain woman like me, it can go so far as having to self-sacrifice for the sake of a man’s mental purity.1 Give up that oh so cute satin baby-doll blouse for work and go instead for a more conventional button up in a pretty color.
Have you run across people who knew they were attractive and knew they were flaunting their attractiveness? Have you been that person yourself? What do you think of this aspect of modesty?
- I can get very caught up in cute clothes. Don’t always take the time to think modesty through. [↩]
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I agree that the attitude makes a huge difference. I have even blogged about this in the past. Just because someone is fully covered does not necessarily mean that they are modest. It begins in the heart! One may appear modest outwardly but if they are flirtatous and “touchy” or flaunting….these are not the attitudes or behaviors of someone with a modest heart. The heart as well as the covering of the body are important!
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Modesty starts in the heart. It starts the second we choose what to put on our bodies. Even a “modest” button-up shirt can be damaging if it accentuates curves or you know someone can see down it if you bend over their desk.
I matured early so I learned the power of the female body before I even wanted to (guys were hitting on me when I was 12). I’m actually kind of thankful for it because I feel since it disgusted me so bad that young it kept me from flaunting as I got into high school and college.
My youth girls are the picture of your last sentence. They whine and complain all the time about how guys are always staring at them or making suggestive comments to them, but then they come dressed in skin-tight spaghetti-strapped shirts or dresses with their breasts spilling out the top. One girl was actually complaining to me one day and she leaned forward in her seat and I saw her jeweled thong sticking out of the back of her pants. So when she sat back up I had 3 questions for her: 1) why in the world do you need to wear a thong – what’s wrong with regular undies; 2) why in the world do you (a 16 year old girl) need to wear undies with rhinestones on them, and 3) what do you expect guys to act like when your pants are so low we can see the entire top triangle of your thong and part of your crack??? AT CHURCH????
The culture here is crazy. Kids grow up way too fast here.
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@MamaArcher: Right on.
@Rachel: I believe it’s selective. The only way I can rationalize the behavior is to think that girls must want some attention, but they don’t want all the attention.
It’s ok if the guy they think is cute sees them that way, but it’s not ok if a guy they don’t like looks at them like that.
The problem is that no boy should be looking at them like that– and there’s where I would focus, reminding the girls that the geek or nerd is looking at them the same way they want the hunk to look at them. (Easier said than done, I’m sure.)
Hey, what if we want the jocks to leave us alone, but we like the nerds and geeks? ;)
The thing is, many girls just don’t think things through. They don’t try the jeans on in the dressing room, bend over, and look in the mirror to see if they’re too low. They don’t consider when they buy the cute undies what that’ll imply when they accidentally peek out. That’s what this site will hopefully help with.
woah, woah, woah. That hit the target.
I can relate to that “knowing your attractive” and flaunting it bit. *wince* Great reminder!
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When I was a gorgeous young heathen I truly thought that my worth was in direct proportion to how many people noticed me that day. And if the admirer was someone else’s boyfriend or husband?–even better!
Sick, isn’t it? But that’s what a heart of stone thinks.
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@Anna Grace: That’s why wives take us hubbies along, so that we can see things they don’t.
@Grafted: Have you see the shirts out there that talk just like this– stuff like “Your boyfriend likes me” or some such nonsense?
Our worth should be in who we are in the name of the immortal Christ, not in what this mortal shell looks like. And yeah, MIn, I have seen those shirts. The one I most recently saw said, “This is your boyfriend’s shirt.” And as far as taking hubby along, what does a single girl do?
The single girl takes God-fearing female friends along! Accountability partners!
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That’s definately good. But one thing I’m discovering through this site is that women and men think so differently about things like this. There were so many shirts I almost bought today while shopping that I would have had MIn and I not talked about styles like that and how they can trip men up. Maybe this is where godly fathers/brothers come into play? I don’t know.
I’ve struggled with this at times, especially when I was a young pre-teen/teenager, but even now sometimes. I like the attention I get when I look good. Because I like beautiful things, I even like looking at myself in the mirror. Yep, I can be very vain. But I try to remember that that is not what is important and I want to maintain an attitude of humility and being so in love with my Savior that what I look like doesn’t matter.
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